I worry a lot about the fact that Kiddo tends to give in to many of Babs' requests, especially when they are the loud and screaming kind. To resolve a conflict, it is usually Kiddo who backs down. I have seen this as a sign that she won't stand up for herself, or is a pushover. But my mother-in-law changed my perspective with a comment she made about it.
"That girl is a peacemaker."
She is. She does. She tries to include others, and help others, and difuse conflicts, and keep others obeying the rules. It is a beautiful trait.
And matches with what we tell Babs' often: You are so lucky to have the big sister you do - because she lets you get away with A LOT.
